From Chaos to Calm: Navigating your PCS with Kids

Moving is never easy, and a PCS move can be especially challenging for families with kids. As a real estate agent, military spouse, and mother I understand both the excitement and the anxieties that come with this transition. With some thoughtful planning and extra care, you can turn the moving process into a manageable—and even rewarding—experience for your whole family.

Begin by talking to your children as soon as you receive your PCS orders. Explain the move in simple terms. Show them maps or photos of your new home and community to make the concept more tangible. Early conversations help them adjust to the idea, giving them time to ask questions and process their feelings. Your calm, positive attitude will reassure them that while their surroundings may change, the love and support of the family remain constant.

Involve your kids in the moving process to help them feel empowered rather than overwhelmed. Instead of leaving every decision to the adults, let them pack a “first-day box” filled with favorite toys, clothes, and essentials. This small task not only gives them a sense of control but also creates a comforting exercise amid the upheaval.

Maintaining familiar routines is key. Even as boxes pile up and schedules shift, try to keep meal times, bedtimes, and weekend activities consistent. You can also create new routines when you reach your new home by exploring your new community together. Whether it’s a visit to the local park, a tour of the neighborhood, or even a family dinner at a nearby restaurant, these shared experiences can quickly turn unfamiliar surroundings into a welcoming new home.

Don’t hesitate to tap into local resources available wherever you are moving. School liaison officers, community groups, and the Military Family Readiness Center offer support tailored to your needs, from school transitions to recreational programs that help kids adjust socially and emotionally. These connections can provide practical advice and invaluable support, easing the stress of the move for both you and your children.

Maybe the most emotionally significant hardship is when your children have to say goodbye or "see you later" to their friends. Arrange a party or gathering prior to your departure. After you've arrived at your new location, provide resources to your children to allow them to stay in touch with their friends through writing letters, sending emails, or talking on the phone. 

A well-organized move starts with a checklist. Break the move down into manageable tasks—such as organizing important documents, scheduling home tours, and packing room by room. This not only eases your stress but also helps you keep track of everything that needs to be done.  

Finally, remember to take care of yourself. A well-rested and organized parent is better equipped to guide children through change. Set aside a few moments for self-care—even a short walk or a quiet cup of coffee can make a big difference. With careful planning, a proactive attitude, and the willingness to lean on community resources, your PCS move can shift from a period of chaos to one of calm, new beginnings, and lasting memories.

Everyone’s journey through a PCS move is unique, and while I hope these suggestions help, they may not suit every situation. If you have any real estate questions or need further guidance about moving to Tyndall AFB, please don’t hesitate to reach out. I'm here to help you navigate your next chapter!